Whether in business or your personal life, feelings of unworthiness can hamper your ability to shine. When we don't perceive ourselves as worthy, we tend to self-sabotage and avoid going for (or asking for) what we deserve.
As real estate agents we aim to demand more for our sale commission, but how do you do this?
The premise is simple. Even if your self-worth increases or decreases a few degrees, or you experience a tremendous change over time, you will eventually revert back to whatever your internal success thermostat is set at. This begs the question: "What can I do to raise my internal thermostat?"
The first and best way to improve your feelings of worthiness is simply to provide value to others; be kind to others as well as to your future self.
Be of service, which means providing value with no expectations of receiving anything in return. It contains the requirement that you give unconditionally. Giving with expectation, is trading and not real giving.
It's essential to have both focus and intention on what we want, in order to get it. And it's difficult to manifest what you want without being of service to others. Providing value by being of service creates a void that the universe will fill for you.
Giving not only makes you feel good, but this altruistic act is contagious. Giving makes you happy, makes the person who receives happy, and even those who witness giving become happier.
Part of being of service is keeping promises that you make to yourself, as well as what you promise to others. Living up to your promises builds trust from others, and confidence in yourself, which leads to a better perspective of your worth. When you set achievable goals and put plans in place to meet them, you'll experience a higher rate of success and simultaneously turn up your worthiness thermostat. You need goal setting (and promise keeping) to be a consistent, persistent behavior, which will then allow you to enjoy the pursuit of your potential by creating objectives and meeting them.
Living with accountability is yet another way to improve your feelings of self-worth. Accountability gives you the power or control over everything in your life. Accountability means that you don't live in a world of blame, shame or justification. Rather, you take on all challenges as an opportunity to learn and grow.
People who are accountable ask themselves two questions when those challenges arise:
The tendency of people to go "below the line" stems from the impulse to defend their ego, But, in reality, they're just avoiding accountability. Going below the line is a guaranteed way to lower your thermostat.
If you want to make a lasting improvement to your self-image and raise your thermostat of worthiness, embrace the principles of service, keep promises you make to yourself (as well as to others), set realistic goals that you can achieve, but keep raising the bar. Finally, take charge of your life by being accountable and living above the line of blame, shame and justification.
These strategies are well worth your time if you want to build your self-worth, feel like you are deserving, and consistently, persistently, rapidly attract the great things that are coming your way.
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